1. Tell us a little about yourself and what #loveyourself means to you.
My name is Elexis and I am from a very small town in Northern Minnesota. I am a wife and mother to 3 children. At the moment I do not work, but one day I hope to do something in the clothing industry. Clothing was always an escape for me. I got to express myself however I wanted. I’ve always struggled with self esteem issues. From before I can remember it was a struggle. I didn’t love my hair or my skin, basically just picked myself apart constantly and found the smallest things to obsess over. As i got older, it became more obsessive. I tried to have the perfect hair, skin, nails, everything, just to impress people. It wasn’t until I became a mother that I really stepped back and realized how destructive I was to myself. I counted my worth on what others thought of me and all I needed was my own approval. It has taken years but i’ve finally learned to #lovemyself. It is not just liking the way you look but loving you, as a whole. The inside and the outside. Realizing that not everything is always going to be perfect but that it is okay and you can still be happy.
2. How has becoming a wife and mother changed the way you #loveyourself?
So I kind of answered that above but even becoming a wife didn’t really change the way I loved myself. I was in a lot of destructive relationships before I met my husband and at first I always thought “there is always someone better so I have to be the best”. It wasn’t until our first child and getting through those first years that I realized just how much he truly loved me for me and not just my looks. He didn’t care if my hair was perfect or if I ever wear makeup again. Then as we had more children I never wanted them to feel like they weren’t worthy of love or respect from anyone including themselves. When we had our daughter it really hit me that what I saw in myself and didn’t love, I saw in her as perfect. I want them to grow with the confidence to know their self worth, to know that being imperfect is okay, and to never weigh their happiness on the opinions of others.
3. What is your favorite quote about self love?
My favorite quote about self love is: You carry so much love in your heart. Give some to yourself.
4. We all love social media! But it can be hard to not get trapped in the ‘comparison game’ while scrolling through Instagram. How do you stay away from comparison, keep it real and love your life & yourself while being part of the Instagram world?
Social media is a tough crowd to follow. There is so much good that can come from it but the ‘comparison game’ is a VERY real thing. I did it. I saw all these beautiful homes, fancy clothes, vacations, the works, and thought that I needed to somehow keep up with that. Let be honest here, those tiny squares can be deceiving little suckers. No one is perfect. Yes we all strive to have nice, neat pages, with perfectly curated photos, but there is a lot of stuff stuffed in the corner to get it out of frame. Have we all bribed our kids with a toy or candy to get them to take a photo, uh yeah of course. Our houses get dirty and its not always what it seems. When i remember that its easy not to get sucked in to thinking that others have a better life than I do, because I don’t know what out of frame from their photo or how that person truly lives. I just see what they decide to post. Let me tell you a picture of my kid having a meltdown in my dirty kitchen is not something you want to see lol.
5. What do you do for YOU? Whether it’s a daily thing or less often, what do you do to love yourself and make yourself a priority?
I am actually really bad about making myself a priority and doing things for me. I occasionally make my husband stay home with the kids and go to the grocery store by myself, go through the drive through and get a mountain dew and some hot tamales, and park while i blast music and just have a moment to myself. I literally feels like I’m in Hawaii but I’m in my mini van haha. It just time for me to not think about anything but listening to my music and drinking my pop. This is one area I need to do better in. It is always a work in progress, but even doing the littlest things and taking the time to just sit are fricken amazing.
FRIDAY FUN QUESTION! What is your favorite movie?
My FAVORITE movie ever is Cry Baby!!