1. Tell us a little about yourself and what #loveyourself means to you.
My name is Megan and I am a 28 year old single mama! I never really learned what loving yourself was or how to properly love myself until I became a mom! Loving yourself is so much more then loving your OOTD or your new hair color (though those things do go hand and hand). Loving yourself is not something that comes naturally, at least it didn’t to myself. Loving myself took work, takes practice, and there are days I still don’t love things about myself. Those are the days I put in extra practice. Remind myself the accomplishments, and blessings in my life vs. that thing that is making me feel less then loving myself.
2. Have you ever struggled with self love? Was there a time period or a single experience that made you question your personal worth, and what did you do to overcome that?
I have always struggled personally with being content with my body image. As I look back at my pictures of when I was my lightest, I reflected as I still was not happy. I have come to know who I am and what makes me truly happy when I became a mother. I began the self love journey more recently.
You can read all day on how to change your baby, feed them, bathe them, but what you don’t read is how you as a woman are going to have to learn to love your new body (because lets be real for most of us it is quite a change). I was mortified with my new body, I went straight into diet mode, asking myself how do I get my body back. That is when I began my journey.
I first had to first accept that this was the new me, I could alter and tone the shape I have now, but my hips are a little wider, my hair is a little messier and my sleep is a little lacking on some days and that is okay! Post baby recovery is rough both mentally and physically. Its taken almost one full year but I have began to accept the way my body looks, I have began to love my body and the pain that it went through carrying my son! I have began to love my body for giving me my son. Like how crazy is it that your body can carry your child and your strength can give birth?!? In the same breath I have approached working out with a different angle. I am now approaching it with the mindset to improve the temple that my body is instead of completely wanting to tear it down and rebuild. Loving your body is important and like I said it takes PRACTICE and trust me its taken me years of it!! Another thing is the company you keep really impacts your journey more then you’d realize! Keep positive friends around, friends that will workout with you, uplift you, pray for you!
3. How has becoming a mom changed the way you view yourself and love yourself?
Like I said above, I have learned to love myself through becoming a mom. I have learned to have grace on myself. There are some days someone could ask me what I’ve done today (still in my pjs, hair a mess, no shower at 4 pm) and I hesitate with an answer. In the season I am in, I am in a very transitional period with work.
I am still balancing finding work that works with my life as a single mom. Through that, I have learned to love my job as a mom. I have learned to appreciate the season I am in where I can stay home with my son. I have learned taking care of your child is a JOB in itself. I never would have thought 2 years ago I would be a good mother. Today, I stand so proud of myself for the mother I have become. I view myself as having so much worth, to the point that my little human relies 100% on me, that is chilling to me. Being a mom was almost like going through puberty for me (LOL). I grew up and truly found myself, and found ways to learn to love myself and appreciate myself as a woman and a mother.
4. What is your favorite quote about self love?
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.”
This quote is so fitting for myself. My story is not the typical marriage, husband, baby. I am a single mom, I do rely on my village around me for help, I can not do this alone. I am so blessed to have my family around me. Whether your story is cookie cutter or not, it is YOUR STORY. Learning to love yourself and your story will be the bravest thing you’ll ever do.
5. What do you do for YOU? Whether it’s a daily thing or less often, what do you do to ‘treat yo self’?
Honestly the simplest things are the best in my life. Those mornings my mom offers to take my son so I can go back to sleep, or she takes him shopping so I can get a few hours alone ARE PRICELESS.